Self-Love

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Self-love. What is it? How to do achieve it? For black people and people of colour, it's easier said than done. When in school, the media, and in society we are told that we are unloved or unloveable. So how could we love ourselves when the world teaches us to hate ourselves?

I find it easy to love myself when I look at the alternative, to hate myself and give in? I refuse to give up my power, to prove the masses they were right to hate me. No I love myself even when I hate myself, because I know im human and I am capable of making mistakes. I am able to learn from my mistakes and continue loving myself the same. But some people don't have it that easy. When the world tells you you're a failure, when the world tells you your bad, when the world tells you you're not good enough. It becomes easier to agree with them then to prove them wrong.

But it's NOT easier. Hating yourself because people teach you to hate yourself, becomes a self fulling prophecy. That hate causes you to take less risks, it teaches you to accept the negatives as deserved because your imperfect. It lets you take for granted the gifts and the power you have to be the best. It hinders your growth and it keeps you in constant pain and misery.

I say its time to start loving ourselves. Because self-love is empowering. Self love is the key to understanding your past traumas and allows you to heal. When you love yourself and people doubt you, it doesn't sting as much. When you love yourself and the world tells you you're a failure, you lean in and show them what success looks like. When you love yourself the world is at your fingertips.

Its not easy to love yourself. But when you do, you grow, you build, and you become a better version of yourself because the love you thought you needed from the world. Was the love you stopped giving to yourself. So dont ever stop loving yourself. Don't let anyone show you your worth. Hold your head tall. Mark those mistakes as errors in judgement, dont beat yourself up the world does that job already. Anytime you fall down, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and show the world that the love you have within was all the love you ever needed.

How do you do it?

Show them that when the world hates me that I still and will always love me. Cause my self-love is not dependant on the approval of others, it is dependant on me. I chose to love me. When no one wants to love me, I still and will always love me.

Now say it with me!

I love myself. I believe in myself. I believe in my abilities. I am in control of my life. I am happy and full of joy. I am creating a beautiful life. I deserve to be happy. I am worthy of love and attention. I deserve success and wealth. Believing in myself comes naturally to me. I have unique abilities.

If you say it enough, you start to understand its truth. My goal is to say this once a day, I hope you do the same.